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Are you More Afraid of Success or Failure?

Darlene Hawley

Let's uncover the fear that is holding you back and start taking action.

Darlene Hawley, Personal Branding & Business Coach for  online service based business owners

Often as an entrepreneur when your feeling stuck and are not getting the results you’re looking for it can come down to two things. Are you afraid of feeling like a failure or are you afraid of succeeding?

Let’s uncover which is holding you back. Plus I’ve included some actionable steps to help move you're through the fear and come out talking action.

Afraid of failure?

Do you ever fear that if you give it your everything and still don’t hit your goal or dream that you will find out that your dreams are way to big and unrealistic?

How devasting would it be to work so hard and not get what you want?

When you're doing your life’s work, what you were put on this earth to do.

It’s important to remember that this fear is created by your ego. Your mind is creating these horrible thoughts to keep you stuck exactly where you are.

Your mind doesn’t want you to change the status quo because where you are right now is comfortable and familiar, kinda like your jammies….right.

As much as I love staying in my comfort zone, it feels really good when I push through and face my fears.

Once I identify what my fear is and write it down, I like to ask myself two questions.

1. Whats the worst that can happen?
2. And how will I handle it if my fear becomes a reality?

I have been wanting to go live on my FB business page for a while, and recently went live for the first time. I won't lie I was scared, what if I couldn't remember what I wanted to say, what if I sound or look stupid, what if no one watches. I was stuck in my head and filled with fear.

And guess what....it wasn't that bad. Once I got out of my way and just did it, it wasn't as scary anymore. I had my notes for staying on track, and people actually watched, yay!

Once we see that even if our worst nightmare does come true that were able to work through it, it takes the fear away.

Understand that these are just thoughts and are untrue.

There is no real obstacle that can get in your way if you’re following your passion….and living in your purpose.


Do you fear success?

Ask yourself, If I really do succeed and I make”XYZ” happen or reach my income level goal…what would be the negative consequence?

You might have an unconscious fear of success.

If I make more money, I will have to pay higher taxes.

What if my work just isn't good enough, and no one works with me.

The crazy thing is that we have about 60,000 thoughts a day and 98% of them are thoughts we had yesterday too.

We can get caught up in a negative thought loop that we create for ourselves, and it’s very difficult to break it and move forward.

The fear of succeeding is real, in the past, I have had a ton of brilliant ideas that would have helped me stand out more online, but I didn’t execute them. I told myself it was because I didn’t want the attention. Or that all the work was not worth the effort.

But in reality, it was easier for me to not deal with the rejection so I just didn’t do it.

Breaking through these types of cycle is a big part of how I work with my clients. I help you identify what’s true and what’s not. I challenge you and together we break through the thought loop and turn it into a constructive positive one.

Identify the destructive thought patterns you have connected to your fear of success. Write down how you would handle each scenario if it were to come true.

A great way to do this by filling in this sentence. “Even though {insert the situation and how you feel}, I’m open to/happy to {insert how you feel}.” Example: Even though I’m afraid to stand out more online, I’m open to sharing my message to help woman grow their business.

Sometimes we have to get out of our own way and remember what our purpose is and why it's so important.

Ps. Ready to break through the fear that’s been holding you back. Schedule a 30 minute Clarity call with me. I will help you lean into the fear and start doing the things you need to do to attract your audience and stand out in your industry.

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Darlene Hawley, Personal Branding & Business Coach for service based entrepreneurs

Hey There!

I'm Darlene



As a mother, wife, connector, and dream builder, I’m Darlene Hawley, the founder of DarleneHawley.com and an Executive Leadership & Businesss Coach dedicated to empowering leaders like you.


My passion lies in helping ambitious professionals cultivate their unique leadership style while crafting an authentic and impactful personal brand. Through my coaching, we’ll work together to build a solid foundation that not only inspires your team but also drives results and growth within your organization.


Since 2007, I have been committed to guiding leaders and entrepreneurs in launching and scaling their businesses with confidence and clarity.


Today, I focus on supporting women in reaching their leadership goals and living their dream lives—all while balancing the joys of raising my family and creating meaningful memories each day.


Together, we’ll transform your challenges into opportunities, allowing you to lead with authenticity and inspire those around you.

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