I was recently invited to speak with a group of remarkable women who were wrestling with something many of us face: how to find confidence when speaking to senior or higher-titled audiences. As we circled up to talk, the conversation turned candid and vulnerable. One by one, these women shared their experiences—the nagging fear that they might not know enough, that they’d somehow be “found out” onstage, or that they’d misunderstand industry jargon and look foolish. For many, it was classic imposter syndrome, casting doubts on their knowledge, intelligence, and even their right to be in the room.
They feared that unsettling moment when they might look out at the audience, notice a few raised eyebrows, and wonder, “Do they know more than me?” It was a familiar feeling, one I had experienced many times, and it resonated deeply. After all, stepping into the spotlight when you’re aware of the expertise in the room can feel daunting, especially when you’re convinced that every set of eyes is on you, waiting to see if you’ll stumble.
Our conversation soon turned into a powerful exchange of stories, tips, and real strategies to overcome these fears. Through our discussion, I was reminded of how common this struggle is and how, with the right tools, we can all speak confidently to any audience, no matter their title or tenure.
Here are some of the tips and techniques I shared for overcoming nerves when speaking to senior or higher-titled audiences. These strategies will help you manage your nerves and empower you to communicate with clarity, confidence, and impact.
It's important to acknowledge that feeling nervous before speaking to senior leaders is completely natural. Even the most experienced executives experience anxiety. The key is understanding that nerves are a normal part of public speaking and do not define your ability to deliver a great presentation.
Tip: Rather than seeing nerves as a weakness, reframe them as excitement. This shift in mindset can transform those anxious feelings into positive energy that fuels your performance.
One of the most effective ways to overcome nerves is to shift your focus away from your own fears and onto the message you're delivering. Senior leaders and high-titled individuals are focused on the value your message can bring to the organization rather than on how well you speak. When you focus on the impact of your ideas rather than on your delivery, you'll feel less self-conscious and more confident in your communication.
Tip: Ask yourself: What can I offer to this audience that will help solve their challenges or advance the business? When you clearly understand your value, your confidence will grow.
Managing your physiological response is crucial when you're preparing to speak in front of a high-pressure audience. Deep breathing exercises are simple yet highly effective in calming your nerves and preparing your body for confident speaking.
Deep Breathing Exercise:
Tip: Use this technique just before you step onto the stage or enter the room. It can help slow your heart rate, reduce anxiety, and improve your focus.
Anxiety and excitement trigger similar physical responses in your body. Your heart races, your palms sweat, and your mind races with thoughts. Instead of labeling these symptoms as nervousness, reframe them as excitement. This subtle shift in perception
can make you feel more energized and prepared to tackle the task ahead.
Tip: Try saying to yourself, I'm excited to share my ideas with this group. This reframing can turn anxious energy into a performance advantage.
When speaking to senior leaders, less is often more. High-titled individuals are looking for clarity and high-level insights that will help them make decisions. It's important to distill your message down to a few key points that are easy to digest.
Tip:
The more you practice, the more confident you will become. To ensure you're comfortable with your material, practice your speech, pitch, or presentation multiple times before facing senior leaders. Rehearsing allows you to refine your message, anticipate tough questions, and reduce any uncertainties about what you will say.
Tip: Consider recording yourself while practicing to identify areas for improvement. This can help you become more aware of your tone, body language, and overall delivery.
One of the most effective ways to ease your nerves is by establishing rapport with senior leaders before your presentation. If possible, engage with them in conversation, ask questions, and show genuine interest in their work. Building a connection beforehand can make you feel more comfortable when it's time to speak.
Conversation Starters:
These conversation starters can help you naturally engage with senior leaders, giving you the opportunity to practice your communication skills and build confidence.
One of the most effective ways to prepare for speaking to senior leaders is through role-playing or improv-style exercises. These activities simulate the pressure of high-stakes situations and allow you to practice handling questions and responses in real time. The more you practice speaking in pressure-filled scenarios, the more you'll build the confidence to hold them in real life.
Tip: Get a colleague, coach or mentor to play the senior leader role and ask tough questions. The more you practice, the more comfortable you'll become with managing nerves in real time.
Speaking to senior or higher-titled audiences doesn't have to be a nerve-wracking experience. You can confidently present your ideas by preparing your message, managing your nerves with breathing techniques, and reframing anxiety as excitement. Practice these strategies, engage with senior leaders beforehand, and remember that your values and insights matter most.
The next time you step into that room full of executives, you'll be ready to speak clearly, confidently, and impactfully.
Navigating high-stakes speaking opportunities and engaging with senior leaders can be challenging, but you don't have to do it alone. Whether you're looking to refine your presentation skills, build confidence for your next pitch, or master how to communicate effectively in front of higher-titled audiences, I'm here to support you.
1:1 Coaching:
Through personalized coaching sessions, I'll help you overcome any obstacles that hold you back from speaking with confidence. Together, we'll work on developing your speaking style, crafting your key messages, and managing nerves so you can walk into any room ready to lead.
Workshops & Group Training:
If you're part of a team or organization, I also offer workshops and training designed to equip leaders with the skills needed to communicate clearly and confidently in high-pressure situations. From in-depth sessions to hands-on practice, we'll cover everything you need to feel empowered in front of senior leaders.
Next Steps:
Ready to improve your speaking skills? Let's schedule a time to discuss how I can help you overcome nerves and deliver powerful presentations. Whether through 1:1 coaching or an immersive workshop, I can provide the tools and support you need to succeed.
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As a mother, wife, connector, and dream builder, I’m Darlene Hawley, the founder of DarleneHawley.com and an Executive Leadership & Businesss Coach dedicated to empowering leaders like you.
My passion lies in helping ambitious professionals cultivate their unique leadership style while crafting an authentic and impactful personal brand. Through my coaching, we’ll work together to build a solid foundation that not only inspires your team but also drives results and growth within your organization.
Since 2007, I have been committed to guiding leaders and entrepreneurs in launching and scaling their businesses with confidence and clarity.
Today, I focus on supporting women in reaching their leadership goals and living their dream lives—all while balancing the joys of raising my family and creating meaningful memories each day.
Together, we’ll transform your challenges into opportunities, allowing you to lead with authenticity and inspire those around you.