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Overcoming the Fear of Speaking Up in High-Stakes Situations

Darlene Hawley

Strategies to Build Confidence, Manage Public Speaking Anxiety, and Make an Impact in Important Meetings

We’ve all been there—sitting in an important meeting or standing in front of an audience with something valuable to say but feeling the weight of fear and anxiety holding us back.


I’ve often been asked how to manage this fear of speaking up, especially when the stakes are high. Whether it’s in a big presentation, a key meeting, or during a moment when your voice needs to be heard, that anxious feeling can creep in and make you hesitate.


But here’s the thing: overcoming the fear of public speaking is essential for your growth, leadership, and the impact you want to make. So, let’s talk about a few strategies you can use to not just manage that fear, but to speak up with confidence and make the impact you're capable of.



Acknowledge the Fear—Then Reframe It

It’s perfectly normal to feel nervous before speaking in high-stakes situations. Instead of resisting that fear, acknowledge it and reframe it as excitement or anticipation. Your body’s response—sweaty palms, quickened heartbeat—can also be your body preparing you to rise to the occasion. This is a key strategy in overcoming anxiety during presentations.


Focus on the Message

When we focus too much on how others will judge us, our anxiety skyrockets. Instead, we should focus on the value of the message that we’re sharing. Ask yourself: What’s the impact I want to make with this message? How will it benefit the team, organization, or client? Building confidence in public speaking starts by shifting your thoughts to purpose, not pressure.


Prepare, But Don’t Over-Prepare

Preparation is key to managing nerves, but over-preparing can backfire. Know your main points, but give yourself space to be flexible. If you’re too rigid in your delivery, you may panic when things don’t go exactly as rehearsed. Speaking confidently in meetings often comes from allowing some flexibility. Walk around your house or office, practice out loud what you want to say, and you’ll find that your body will embody the message, helping you to speak confidently in high-pressure situations.


Breathe and Pause

When public speaking anxiety builds, our breathing becomes shallow. Take a deep, belly-filled breath several times before you speak, and allow yourself to pause during your speech or meeting. A well-timed pause can give you a moment to collect your thoughts—and, in turn, give your audience time to process what you've shared and apply it to their lives. This is an essential technique in reducing anxiety before speaking and can help you speak confidently at work.


Visualize a Positive Outcome

Before the meeting or presentation, take a few moments to visualize yourself speaking confidently and being well-received. Picture the positive reactions of your audience. Visualization is a powerful tool that can help you step into the moment with calm and clarity, particularly when speaking in high-stakes meetings or during important presentations.


Remember, the fear of speaking up in front of others isn’t a sign that you aren’t capable—it’s a sign that you care deeply about the message you’re delivering. With these strategies, you’ll not only manage that fear, but you’ll also turn it into the fuel you need to make an impact in important meetings.


I’d love to hear—how do you handle the fear of speaking up in high-stakes situations?

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Darlene Hawley, Personal Branding & Business Coach for service based entrepreneurs

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I'm Darlene



As a mother, wife, connector, and dream builder, I’m Darlene Hawley, the founder of DarleneHawley.com and an Executive Leadership & Businesss Coach dedicated to empowering leaders like you.


My passion lies in helping ambitious professionals cultivate their unique leadership style while crafting an authentic and impactful personal brand. Through my coaching, we’ll work together to build a solid foundation that not only inspires your team but also drives results and growth within your organization.


Since 2007, I have been committed to guiding leaders and entrepreneurs in launching and scaling their businesses with confidence and clarity.


Today, I focus on supporting women in reaching their leadership goals and living their dream lives—all while balancing the joys of raising my family and creating meaningful memories each day.


Together, we’ll transform your challenges into opportunities, allowing you to lead with authenticity and inspire those around you.

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